October 4, 2009 
This episode in this variety show (今晚谁当家) talks about conflict between celebrities and their husband and their reason for divorcing. She and her husband form relationship based on proximity (form relationship with people around them) as both of them are celebrity. Most people do that to prevent uncertainty and they will have less intimidation towards each other. However, conflict can still occur.
Conflict occurs due to differences in perception and this is highlighted by one of the celebrity 欢欢 in video part 1 at 5 minute 17 seconds. Similarly, conflict can also arise when some of the most important needs in relationship conflict with one another. For her case, both of them have conflict in the autonomy vs. connection part as he is too controlling over her life and work. Her husband decides over which show she can accept and she has to show him any script that she is acting in (in video part 2 at 7 minute 11 second). If there is any part in the script that he does not like, he will ask her not to accept the case. She can only wear long dress and she cannot reveal her toes when she goes on any show this is seen in video part 3 at 2 minute 42 seconds. At the same time, because the guy love her too much he wants her to call him every time she finish doing something this is seen in video 4 at 1 minute 4 seconds.
欢欢has tried to resolve their conflict by going with what her husband wants her to do but it is still a dysfunctional (break a relationship) one as she finally feel that she is very tired of always being the under-benefitting one. In the end, the husband, the over-benefiting one also finally thought through thoroughly and both of them decided to end this relationship peacefully.
I think her relationship with her husband is very similar to the Duck’s model of relational disengagement strategies and it is clearly shown in video part 5. In the sense that they start to quarrel and pinpoint about each other at the start (intrapsychic processes), they start to talk about their problems at 44 seconds (dyadic processes), grave-dressing process seen in 1 minute 20seconds, and both of the are happier after they are divorce as seen in 2 minute 36 seconds (resurrection process). She can now enjoy her work and doing things that she is interested in and is no longer restricted by her husband.
YA! I think the husband is controlling her too much! She should have some freedom of her own. Since he married her knowing that she is also a celebity like him, i think he should be more understanding towards her job, and not give her so many restrictions. These would only make it harder for her to work. No doubt that i can see that he really love her, but i must say that he had use the wrong method to love her. If i were her, i would think that his love is too much for me to bear. So, actually i was quite glad that she had left him and i think that she should have left him earlier lo. Anyway it’s good that all turns out well(or so i think). Hope her next relationship would be much better!
pei
I do not think the lady will start another relationship because it is obvious in the show that both of them still love each other deeply. Maybe when you love someone too much you do things that you think is very caring or protective but in the end hurting the other party. I think her husband don’t mind it afterall.
I feel that the ex-husband is being over-controlling which could eventually leads to conflicts between him and his wife. I feel that in any realationship, communication and being able to compromise are two very important elements. Although him being over-controlling could be due to the fact that he really cares about his wife, I feel that he should also gives her some personal freedom. However, I’m glad that in the end they were able to end their marriage peacefully and are still able to keep in contact even after their divorce.
Similarly, I am also happy for them ending it so peacefuly, as I really think it is very rare that when a couple are divorcing they can actually still be friends and still care for each other. Marriage is actually about the union of two person living happily after marriage it is a good thing to end it if both of them will be happier after that.
I feel strongly that women should have their own feedom.
Sometimes, I pity the lives of celebrities. Too much attention is being put on their private lives and this affects a couple’s relationship too. This is especially when one party is a celebrity while the other is not. Conflict will definitely arise. I personaaly overheard a celebrity who shall not be named here, arguing over the phone at workplace with her boyfriend and this was partially the reason.
Other than celebrities, I think that we girls should not just let it pass when our boyfriend is being over controlling.
=)Kai Ting
I support you that woman should have their own freedom, they are not a possession of man. However, for this couple their relationship is not affected by the views of the public but rather the way the husband controls his wife. Both of them are celebrities. Cool, tell me is which celebrity in person ok? (haha). I think woman should voice out their opinion and thoughts if their husband is too over-controlling.
His husband is too over-bearing. I am glad that the celebrity divorce from her husband because i think there is no point living together if the marriage itself becomes a torture. Sometimes a relationship still ended even though both parties did tried to resolve it but like you have said its dysfunctional. Relationship is not as easy to control as what we think at times.
I would not say that his husband is over-bearing but instead overly concern about her. They did put in effort but it is still not having any progress for their relationship and the best solution is to end it. Agree with you that sometimes things are not subjected to our control especially so in matters of the hearts.
I would not say that his husband is over-bearing but instead overly concern about her. They did put in effort but it is still not having any progress for their relationship and the best solution is to end it. Agree with you that sometimes things are not subjected to our control especially so in matters of the heart.
Most marriage broke off because of husband having extra marital affair or husband being abusive but this is a unique case. This couple looks like a couple that are very loving to me instead. I think that relationship does not really matter if you are very similar to the other party or not because there are many cases where people married others that are very different with them in terms of family background, race, religion and many more but they still get along well.
Well analysis of their relationship into stages good job.
How can she stand living a life like that, it is so boring to stay at home all the time. There should be a limit to how much the husband controls her life. No wonder the wife wants a divorce and luckily the husband is very understanding and they broke off without much quarrel or fight. Glad that she is having freedom now.
It is kind of hard for me to image me living that kind of live too but I think she have been doing so for more than two years in this marriage. Im glad for her too but i still think that they love each other but it is just that they need some time on their own to sort things out.
There are many factors that can result in a start of a relationship between two person but at the same time there can also be thousands of reason why a couple broke up. Marriage is a union between two parties that promise to provide and care for each other but sometimes there are circumstances that we cannot control that will force a marriage to end. No matter them being celebrity or not, realationship is something that requires effort of both parties to carry on. I think may be after separating they may end up together again in future like what huanhuan says in the video.
Yes there are many factors. Sometimes couples even quarel over some things like why the other party did not close the light after going to the toilets. Both of them did put in effort but it just did not turn out the optimistic way which is continuing their marriage. I also agree that they will may be get back together after the period of separation.